tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post1250218395452446972..comments2023-12-07T03:45:06.927-05:00Comments on Forks Off The Moment: Everyday Kindness: Happy News and Unclaimed BaggageDiannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-473422391903443652008-03-14T23:32:00.000-04:002008-03-14T23:32:00.000-04:00hey dianne,first, i just want to say that i'm sorr...hey dianne,<BR/>first, i just want to say that i'm sorry you had to endure the pathetic, displaced anger, of such a cruel, thoughtless person, who clearly is filled with such misery, and utter despair that she feels the need to completely attempt to shred another person's ego and well-being. unfortunately, there are so many people like this and sometimes it's hard to "be the bigger person". i have so much admiration and respect for the way you handled this situation...i think you did the right thing too. when it all comes down to it, would having that trollish bitch fired really have erased the hurt that she inflicted on you? probably not...i love the way that you write, it's so smart and funny and both painfully and refreshingly REAL. i love how you describe the various parts of your psyche and how they merge together, sometimes suppressed, sometimes evident. i think that's how it is for everybody. you seriously dazzle me with your writing, i love reading your posts, they're truly amazing, inspiring, and thought provoking, it really resonates with me. and my absolute FAVORITE part of this post is how you had to have the last word and told her not to fuck with you again or you'd toss her in the compactor!!!! :D that is EXACTLY something i would have said and the perfect way to end that very ugly situation, with that very ugly, diminutive, gnarly old troll. and your closing words "be kind out there" were extra awesome because they followed you "fuck with me again" comment....truly brilliant!<BR/>xoxo<BR/>layladollface designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05918778146091006830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-38720111222022094072008-03-13T08:14:00.000-04:002008-03-13T08:14:00.000-04:00good for you akelamaluthank you pink dogwood, hugs...good for you akelamalu<BR/><BR/>thank you pink dogwood, hugs are always good<BR/><BR/>tt - I think most of us carry something (or a lot) around. It becomes a matter of how you manage it. The further away I get from this whole incident the more I'm glad I did what I did - thanks for the support :)Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-9311465626813630212008-03-12T21:37:00.000-04:002008-03-12T21:37:00.000-04:00Holy shit!! How did I miss this one?? Bravo sister...Holy shit!! How did I miss this one?? Bravo sister! Well done. i wish i could bitch that well and still make it humerous. You did gt me laughing...as always...<BR/>The part where you wrote" I cope real good until I don't. Then I am a spectacular pile of old issues,unclaimed baggage...." hit me between the eyes. Well put. That is me too!!! I wonder if more of 'our' generation feels the same? I'm sure it transends generations though.<BR/>I love it when people 'give it back'. She's probably one of those miserable old women who aren't happy untill they've caused hate and discontent all around them. Pitiful old biotch!<BR/>Yay for you....tthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157492410943794052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-37014397631820407552008-03-11T13:58:00.000-04:002008-03-11T13:58:00.000-04:00I am sorry you had to go through this, sorry that ...I am sorry you had to go through this, sorry that there are people like her.<BR/><BR/>A big hug to you :)pink dogwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00938574807898718022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-81295856425431545382008-03-11T13:42:00.000-04:002008-03-11T13:42:00.000-04:00It is but I give it her back twofold!It is but I give it her back twofold!Akelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-79701023525431114162008-03-11T08:32:00.000-04:002008-03-11T08:32:00.000-04:00michael - we do live in a different world, just wi...michael - we do live in a different world, just wish more people would join us. thanks Michael for the kind words.<BR/>Many cats bites out of what's called "fearful agression" - they'll get you before you get them. With Siren it used to be all the time, now it's when a sudden sound or movement startles him - it triggers a past intuition of danger.<BR/>I'm pretty sure his bite didn't make me sick - I think I should have covered the wound, didn't realize how deep it was. I really do think the toxic elements of the store caused the infection.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-66648879006618565972008-03-11T08:28:00.000-04:002008-03-11T08:28:00.000-04:00hey kim! - thanks for the visit. I have to get bac...hey kim! - thanks for the visit. I have to get back to your blog and read the rest of the bios. Siren says hi to Sophie, something tells me they'd get along just fine.<BR/><BR/>snoopmurph - Siren loves to play peek-a-boo - he pokes his head around the door and peeks down the hall waiting for me to do the same, then he charges up and down the hall. We can repeat this many, many times. and thanks snoop!Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-8720867612613124692008-03-11T08:22:00.000-04:002008-03-11T08:22:00.000-04:00jt - I DO give good hugs. I'm a hugger from way ba...jt - I DO give good hugs. I'm a hugger from way back ;)<BR/>don't worry about commenting - I know you're there. <BR/><BR/>cherie - yes, I really did say that - shy on the inside, crazed on the outside! "walking woman" and "creepy guy" are a hopeful sight, I'd be a bit jealous too if it weren't for the fact that she's so sweet and he looked happy for the first time in all the years I've known him.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-60718941244823324182008-03-11T02:08:00.000-04:002008-03-11T02:08:00.000-04:00Hi Dianne: What comes through in this story is how...Hi Dianne: What comes through in this story is how hard you work, how much you've overcome, and how much compassion you have. I've often said this, but we live in a different world, Dianne. But there have been many changes for the better and many other societal areas for improvement. You strike me as a beacon of hope for people who take a stand for what is right. <BR/><BR/>I love the names of your cats. I was bitten by our former apartment roving cat I named "Mister Cat" but it didn't break my skin. I wish I understood what drives cats to do this. Mia is a sweet name! Be well!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539850495318868267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-44922220296281501772008-03-11T01:31:00.000-04:002008-03-11T01:31:00.000-04:00Wow-I read this earlier this morning and just so i...Wow-I read this earlier this morning and just so impressed in your choices. I wonder how people survive spewing negativity all day long. Thank you for possibly making someone stop and think before they talk. <BR/><BR/>P/S Glad Mia is doing better. Connor and I were looking at Siren again today-I kept scrolling up and down to make Siren disappear and reappear for today's entertainment.Linda Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16801313102525232162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-13964765323780880962008-03-10T21:40:00.000-04:002008-03-10T21:40:00.000-04:00I'm impressed with how you handled that situation....I'm impressed with how you handled that situation...good for you! I'm glad the rage-filled teenager was able to get a word in there...glad the responsible adult let her sneak out for a second! Good for you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02647293101373219073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-64375883610587050222008-03-10T21:26:00.000-04:002008-03-10T21:26:00.000-04:001. Glad Mia is settling in. Got to get the hissi...1. Glad Mia is settling in. Got to get the hissing stage out of her system. Just wait until she's up to her fighting weight. ;)<BR/><BR/>2. So neat about Walking Woman and Creepy Guy. Gives me hope. And I'm always happy when I see that others are happy ... except, of course, for when I am insanely jealous. LOL But not today. Today, I'm thrilled for them. :D<BR/><BR/>3. I am so sorry that the troll is ... well ... a troll. I'm glad that it "worked out" in the end. But did you really say that to her? I would never be able to do that. You go girl! :) I would send the same message, but in my own wonderfully passive aggressive way. lol<BR/><BR/>Did this happen today or last week? Either way ... just remember ... Hump Day is coming! lol :)<BR/><BR/>xxooAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-52863158533877469762008-03-10T21:14:00.000-04:002008-03-10T21:14:00.000-04:00It's well past my turn to give you a GIANT, CRUSHI...It's well past my turn to give you a GIANT, CRUSHING BEAR HUG.<BR/><BR/>I love your storytelling and how you weave the humor and idealism into even the most enraging moments.<BR/><BR/>I'm resolved to comment more because I *am* reading and I love your blog...and you're always so kind to comment.<BR/><BR/>More big hugs. (And I suspect you know how to give GOOD hugs too!) :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-29262323566385461992008-03-10T20:54:00.000-04:002008-03-10T20:54:00.000-04:00lisa - I'd love to be a (paid) matchmaker and I wo...lisa - I'd love to be a (paid) matchmaker and I would dress like Barbra Streisand in Hello Dolly! Love ya Lisa<BR/><BR/>michelle - I feel I know more about you now that I read your blog regularly so - a wow from you is like an entire passage to me, thank you.<BR/><BR/>jo - another person whose blog takes MY breath away, and your comments to our mutual blog friends are always as good as your own entries - I'd love to hug and drink and have pie - and I think we should take Jay with us.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-22402346694844820832008-03-10T20:28:00.000-04:002008-03-10T20:28:00.000-04:00That was breathtaking...like being on a rollercoas...That was breathtaking...like being on a rollercoaster. I want to hug you then have drinks. And pie. If you don't like pie, I'll eat yours :)<BR/><BR/>I love your grit, your humanity. Your compassion & dignity move me especially b/c you have some snarly emotions mixed in--that kind of grace is so difficult.<BR/><BR/>That woman's cruelty, her arrogance, ignorance--gah, it sickens me. So glad to hear Mia's doing better...and what a sweet story about the couple :)Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09638509010212406012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-18313421822742510032008-03-10T18:47:00.000-04:002008-03-10T18:47:00.000-04:00Wow! To all of it!Wow! <BR/><BR/>To all of it!Michelle O'Neilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03221354521123541601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-53637578649658985522008-03-10T18:40:00.000-04:002008-03-10T18:40:00.000-04:00Oh, Dianne, as wonderfully written as it was, that...Oh, Dianne, as wonderfully written as it was, that story made me so angry! I don't know how you held your cool. Bravo, girlfriend! That bitch was, of course, tearing you down to try to make herself feel worthy. Not that that helps but know that she must feel like a terrible person. And not just about what she did to you, but all the time. People like that are emotionally stunted--they've never really developed past that "mean girl" high school mentality. I worked with an entire office full of them for a short time in a hospital billing department. As soon as a co-worker would leave the room, the rest of them would tear her apart--it didn't even matter who it was. It was horrible. I think I lasted two long months. . . <BR/><BR/>You handled the entire situation beautifully. :-)<BR/><BR/>Glad to hear Mia is improving! And what a great story about the two you spotted in the diner. "Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match. . ." Do I see a new career on the horizon? LOL!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-62268537378067427412008-03-10T17:36:00.000-04:002008-03-10T17:36:00.000-04:00sleepypete - I am thrilled about Mia and the new c...sleepypete - I am thrilled about Mia and the new couple - took the edge of an otherwise crappy couple of days. I love that Cujo Troll is catching on! thanks!<BR/><BR/>akelamalu - it's awful when the troll is in a position of power.<BR/><BR/>bobbie - "Now I understand the compassion you feel for others."<BR/>thanks so much bobbie. I was so angry for so much of my life, perhaps that is where cujo troll comes from although I never hurt others. but the anger wears away at you so I've been working on that.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-841312317177776322008-03-10T17:31:00.000-04:002008-03-10T17:31:00.000-04:00CG - that wide range of emotions thing seems to be...CG - that wide range of emotions thing seems to be going around! ;)<BR/>and it IS wonderful news about the (I hope) new couple. thanks cg<BR/><BR/>kenju - thank you :)<BR/><BR/>Odat - I love when you get bitchy - well actually I've never seen you bitchy but this is a cool start!<BR/>I'm thrilled that you enjoy Paolo - he's a favorite of mine.<BR/><BR/><BR/>heidianne - welcome. I often lose track of how I discover folks. Our names are similar and hihidi was the nickname my niece had for me. fun! I checked out your place and will come back - really interesting stuff there.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-68214600594248186872008-03-10T17:30:00.000-04:002008-03-10T17:30:00.000-04:00Glad about Mia and Walking Woman and Creepy Guy.As...Glad about Mia and Walking Woman and Creepy Guy.<BR/><BR/>As to your store associate - I am in complete agreement with Raven. You made me cry and then laugh. People like that leave me sputtering with rage. They are just beyond comprehension. you, my dear, are a heroine on a number of levels. Now I understand the compassion you feel for others.bobbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00658103343742852411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-81777660075439264702008-03-10T16:38:00.000-04:002008-03-10T16:38:00.000-04:00Every workplace has a troll, in my case it's the b...Every workplace has a troll, in my case it's the boss! Well done you.Akelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-36272420296864871962008-03-10T16:31:00.000-04:002008-03-10T16:31:00.000-04:00Good to hear Mia's improving :-) We had the hissin...Good to hear Mia's improving :-) We had the hissing/glaring with a cat and dog ages ago. The new Cat was the one in the middle of the room staring at the old Dog who was hiding under the sofa.<BR/><BR/>That crazieteenager just loves to escape from the leash we keep it under doesn't it :-) Looks like you managed to release that anger in just the right way though - by letting people know you were angry through words instead of by making bruises.<BR/><BR/>You could have insisted that they take her job away, which would have given some short term satisfaction but in a nasty way. But you'll have far more lasting satisfaction (in a good way) seeing Cujo Troll in a month's time and knowing that you're the better person.Sleepypetehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11143274290029186546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-91244345606682741482008-03-10T15:29:00.000-04:002008-03-10T15:29:00.000-04:00nice spot you have here. i found you somehow. i'...nice spot you have here. i found you somehow. i'll be back.<BR/><BR/>oh, you did the right thing in every instance mentioned. cheers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-29498472580867391932008-03-10T15:02:00.000-04:002008-03-10T15:02:00.000-04:00a) I'm so glad Mia is doing better!b) that's terri...a) I'm so glad Mia is doing better!<BR/>b) that's terrific about the walking woman and creepy guy!!! <BR/>c) Oh you did the right thing all right! Tell me where she works and when and I'll come and be the most bitchiest customer she's ever dealt with!!! ;-)<BR/>Hang in there! Hugssssssss.<BR/>and Peace.<BR/><BR/>oh....I checked out Paolo Nutini!!!<BR/>I love him! Thanks!Odathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03973602431527460287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797176281269170321.post-76764226652890628652008-03-10T14:08:00.000-04:002008-03-10T14:08:00.000-04:00You did exactly the right thing! Bravo!You did exactly the right thing! Bravo!kenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.com