Yes I was once again watching ET – Dancing With the Stars brings out the worst in me – and I caught a segment that made me smile and feel a bit better about the nature of things.
Actress Pauley Perrette – I think she’s adorable – got married this past Valentine’s Day in a ceremony that “celebrates generosity and community”. She wore a $20 dress from a thrift store – in place of gifts she asked her guests to donate to 1 of 6 charities and she had a special cake sent to everyone who is part of a local food delivery service for people who are home bound.
Pauley and her husband also chose to have their marriage be a ceremony and not a legal proceeding as their show of solidarity with those who are not allowed to be married.
You can see a bit of the interview with Pauley HERE on the ET site although they left out the part about marriage equality and Prop 8. Pauley has written many articles about her stand and work against Prop 8 – if you’re interested just search her name HERE
I think part of why I’m responding to this story so strongly is that it comes at a time when I’m surrounded with plans for a baby shower that make me very uncomfortable. Talk about fancy restaurants and long guest lists, registering for expensive gifts, designer layettes, Pottery Barn for Kids – did you know there is an $1800 toy chest? Isn’t that special. Nothing says raise your kid to be a materialistic asshat like an $1800 toy chest. What goes in it? Gold? Maybe Bernie Madoff’s wife can hide out in it. Hey Grandma Ruth! Where's all the money?
I will admit this all makes me feel a bit alone and a little sad. I am such an odd duck in this family.
Congratulations to Pauley and her husband. If she ever needs a Mom she can call me.