Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Dear Charlie

I’ve been watching bits of your videos. They make me sad and anxious. I will admit that some of the stuff you’ve said has amused me. And some of it is true as an indictment of corporate Hollywood, of producers who suck the life out of actors. Regardless of how many millions you’ve made I know they’ve made 10 times that off of you.

Here’s the thing. If you were snorting coke through your eyeballs and shooting horse directly into your heart it wouldn’t matter to them if you were working like a good boy and showing the public the image they want you to convey.

So Charlie. WTF? What are you “winning”? Look at Elvis or Belushi – they self destructed in the midst of those who supposedly managed them and cared for them. If you were to kill yourself all those “goddesses” and “supporters” around you would be selling their stories before your body was cold.

There has been something in your demeanor that has nagged at me and then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Your behavior reminds me of my father. Now if you wanna talk bat shit crazy he was the man. Your darting eyes and jerky movements. Your habit of leaning far into the camera and tilting sideways. The incessant running your fingers through your hair. They all hit me.

I believe you when you say you’re off the drugs. My father was sober for years after drinking all the booze the state of Louisiana, including New Orleans!!!, had to offer. He married several times, had many children, held down good jobs, did all the crap “normal” people are supposed to do to prove they’re “normal”.

But there was always something simmering just under the surface and when it couldn't be contained any longer ...

He never went back to the bottle but he lost touch with any semblance of reality. He compared himself to Jesus. Sound familiar “Malibu Messiah”? Everyone was a crook and a liar. He spewed his contempt for everyone at every opportunity.

This hatred encompassed his children as well. He never again saw the children he had deserted in Louisiana and he tormented the children he had in NY.

So here’s the good news Charlie. It appears you haven’t done anything to hurt your children. You have a really critical choice. You have the opportunity to figure out what’s happening with you before your children are old enough to understand. Before the baggage you heap on them is so heavy that they must drop it and run away from you.

Do it Charlie. Put on a disguise and go to a hospital in Kansas. Call your Dad. Something. Do something.

Your children will love you for it. They forgive. Hell, we forgave our father many times a day for years. Each and any moment of genuine parenting was rewarded with unconditional love.

It is the gift and magic of children.



20 comments:

Tracy said...

Dianne,
This is very well said; too bad you can't send it to him. I really do feel compassion for the man as he seems like a lost soul grasping desperately for something to hand onto. It's sad for him, but mostly for his kids!

Ron said...

BRA-VA, Dianne!

Eloquently and beautifully shared!

"Before the baggage you heap on them is so heavy that they must drop it and run away from you."

I wish he would read this post!

X ya, dear lady!

JC said...

Very well said ...

ellen abbott said...

He's definitely got a deep hole somewhere he's desperately trying to fill.

Farmer*swife a/k/a Glass_Half_Full said...

He's so tied up in his righteousness that he can't see he is part of the problem and all his 'winning' and 'screw the trolls' just defeats whatever case he might be making if he could present it sanely.

I truly think he is still going through withdrawals, the chemistry within his brain firing in pain from the damage.

Or, he could just be a crazy piehole who truly thought that being the highest paid actor in America, ever, made him invincible.

Like I keep saying, he didn't make that show alone. And, he aint so funny all by himself. it took a cast and a crew and because of his crazy antics (regardless the cause) there are people wagering their future and jobs and careers.

Well said. Thank you. [Oh, the addiction thing I get too.]

Farmer*swife a/k/a Glass_Half_Full said...

[Dealing with parental addiction, I mean.]

Hilary said...

His decline is heartbreaking. I can't imagine how his family feels but this sure gives me an idea.

Jay said...

Charlie is too far gone. I don't think anyone or anything can save him now.

Arkansas Patti said...

I do hope you send this to him. It may not do any good but it may just be the one thing that does. It is a good look into the way an addicts life effects his children. It certainly can't hurt.

jabblog said...

Well said, Dianne! I think the man is unbelievable - he certainly seems to think he's something special and quite indestructible. Sad!

CrystalChick said...

Since I don't know alot about Charlie, and didn't watch the show a couple of my friends rave about, I didn't really understand what might be going on with him, but this definitely helps to explain part of it. I think you may be right. I hope he can get the help he needs, for himself, and for his children.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Well said.

Matt-Man said...

Well done, but man...I have Sheen fatigue. Cheers Sexy!!

Reb said...

Well said Dianne. I have hopes that someone gets through to him before he does irreparable harm to his kids and himself.

Akelamalu said...

You know Dianne if he read this I think it would hit home! Can't you send it to him?

Micky-T said...

Your a very nice person! I like you.

Linda Reeder said...

It sounds like you have some pretty tragic first hand experience with mental illness. Charlie should read this.

ds said...

Beautifully said, Dianne! Charlie may not see it, but the rest of us have. Your words are an eloquent reminder to watch out for those we love, and of the redemptive joys of parenting.

Happy Elf Mom said...

Your dad missed out on really getting to know a fine lady. I think you are beautiful and lovely and I wish he had taken better care of you and bought you that back brace. I'm so sad that you never got what you needed, and here you pass on so much love to others.

Well, I don't really know who this Charlie Sheen is, but I know (as you implied) there are many of us out there who don't have it all together. :(

Daryl said...

I only wish he would read this .. along with all the others not stars or celebs who also have lost themselves ..

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

I agree with you Dianne...but I'm not sure that Mr. Sheen hasn't already done a lot of damage to his kids. His behavior has been so erratic for years and years....And then there is the 'addiction' gene....
There is no doubt he is a very bright man with nany gifts to share...but right now he is so F---Up, and until he hits his bottom, and let's hope it's not his death---he will just continue on this 'I AM INVINCIBLE' path....It really is like watching a train wreck, though he certainly can be amusing---in the context of the whole--He is round the bend at this point and it is rather pitiable and pitiful.