So I planned on posting the video and linking back to my dear wonderful friend Pagan. I planned on doing it tomorrow.
And I went about my day. A pretty crappy day actually – full of annoyance and a backache and worries.
My last chore for my crappy day was to put out the recycling container. And I ran into my neighbor from across the road. He looked drawn and tired – crushed actually. One of his closest friends just died.
I met this friend. He was 53 (same age as me), married to a wacky and wonderful woman. They have a beautiful teenage daughter. We met at a backyard party. He instantly took my son under his wing, turned out they do the same kind of work. We all spent an incredibly lovely evening together.
As I walked back up my driveway with tears in my eyes and a knot in my stomach I was thinking of how he was the same age as me, of how he had spoken longingly of retirement, of the way I caught him looking at his daughter – full of love and protection and pride. I remembered his eyes when he took me aside to tell me what a great guy my son was – how he knew how hard it must have been to be a single Mom – especially back in the day – in Brooklyn. Turns out we all grew up in the same neighborhood.
As I stepped into my side door all the wind rushed out of my sails.
What if he had been waiting to find out if his marriage was still “valid”? If it was “legal” to be married to the person he was raising a child with. The person he had been committed to for 20 years.
Life is so fragile. Time is so fleeting.
It is a disgrace that love needs to be defended. It is a disgrace that people feel they can attack love.
It is a tragedy to waste this precious time.
I hope you will go to COURAGE CAMPAIGN and sign the petition. It is 3 items down on the left side.